When You've Become Spiritually Wounded
Welcome to this sacred space for those who have experienced hurt within their faith fellowship. This page is created for you to find a place of acceptance, solace, understanding, and spiritual guidance. As a Christian, we are given the admonition,"We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification. For even Christ pleased not himself; but, as it is written, The reproaches of them that reproached thee fell on me. For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope." Romans 15:1-4 Using this text as a model, I'd like to offer you hope of reconciliation and love. This page includes excerpts from different sources in order to get a well-rounded perspective. I will cite my sources when I use them. Otherwise, I am drawing from my own experience and observations. Feel free to copy and paste anything from this cite, just be certain you give credit to the authors of anything you use. So let's start off by addressing some common issues often experienced in the Body of Christ. Regardless of your denomination affiliation, people sometimes feel wounded by the way they feel they were treated. This page is not set up to cast contempt on anyone or any body of believers, but rather to bring healing within the Body of Christ so that we can better serve one another according to the will of God as we prepare for Christ's soon return! One last thing before we get started, there is no way to be completely exhaustive. If there is something that is not covered on this page, please feel free to email me at [email protected]
Let's look at what I have witnessed as being the #1 cause why people feel wounded; they do not feel accepted. Feeling accepted simply means to feel loved. When a church member feels loved, they also feel connected. When they feel connected, they feel vested in the mission of the church. When there is a breach in communal relationships within the church, people began to question whether or not they have value and purpose within that particular body. A breach can occur in 1000 different ways. One way a breach in relationship occurs is when Leadership has yet to master the concept of relational edification. Relational edification signifies that Leadership understands that in order to get members to buy into the vision of the church's mission, he or she must foster shepherd-like relationship with parishioners, while keeping their finger on the pulse of the people. They recognize that the love and acceptance they show has a trickle down effect throughout their entire membership. In other words, Leadership set the precedence for acceptance and warm hospitality. If Leadership does not make this ambition a priority and precedence, then this too will have a trickle down effect, but in a negative way; people will become disengaged and disconnected. Throughout His ministry, Jesus demonstrated what being connected looks like. Let's go to the Word for an example. Sometimes Jesus initiated conversation. There were times when others initiated conversation, and Jesus responded. Then there are examples of Jesus going to homes, workplaces, the synagogue, in the city, in the country. Jesus was about the people. He availed Himself to the people. His mission never went lacking anything because of His involvment with people. Furthermore, Jesus dealt with all people on the social strata. You are welcome to read the story about the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11); or the woman at the well (John 4); or the story of the rich young ruler (Matthew 19); or the story about Jairus' daughter (Mark 5). I can go on and on. The point here is that Jesus was always in touch with people. He ministered to the people by meeting them at their greatest point of need.
For those of you who feel as though you are under the leadership of someone who appears to be out of touch with the people, the first thing I would like to suggest is prayer. I am sure you have prayed in the past. The second thing I would like to suggest is after praying, wait for God to answer. God will give you the opportunity to share your concerns with a trusted family member, friend, or perhaps someone else in leadership position. The one thing that I want you to keep in mind is that God understands what you need. If you commit to listening to Him, He will lead you to be connected with the fellowship that meets your needs, or He will begin working on the hearts of those under which you are being shepherded.
There are churches and fellowships that make it their priority to create an environment where people feel loved. If you have experience in not feeling accepted, then I have some good news for you. Jesus accepts you! You must absolutely get this. Jesus accepts you as a result of Him loving you. You are accepted in the Beloved! Say this, "I am accepted in the Beloved"! Here's your evidence, "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved" Epehesians 1:3-6
I would like for you to spend time meditating on this. This is just the beginning! I know there are many more areas to cover, and I will do my best to cover as many areas as I can over time. If there is a particular area you would like for me to cover, just let me know. Feel free to leave a comment. If there is anything I can do to help, please email me. It would be my pleasure!
Make this your BEST day ever!